Welcome to our digital calling card!

We’re a bisexual, polyamorous, FMF triad living together in Lafayette, seeking more humans to be in our lives. We’ve been together in an egalitarian relationship since 2015, and we consider ourselves pretty good examples of a healthy relationship, polyamorous or otherwise! Don't get your hopes up if you're looking for a hook-up, because between the three of us we can usually sniff that out pretty easily. It's not our goal in life.

Now the good stuff - yes, we would love to have you join our community, if you’re a great fit!

We are always looking for somebody who's open to joining in life's (hopefully) long adventures, without traditional strings attached. We don't tie each other down with rules about things we can't do with others, and we won't impose those kinds of rules on new partners either. We DO ask for some level of commitment. How much time and energy that commitment represents is entirely negotiable.

Possible scenarios:

1. You're a straight or bisexual guy who's really into just one of us. That one of us likes you too and you date, separate from the other two of us for whatever reason. Maybe you see one another once a month, once a week, or even more if you're a "friend of the family" and spend some vertical time with us as well. Keep in mind that you won't be able to monopolize all of that person's time because we have already made time commitments to one another... Ask us about our sleep schedule. ;-)

2. You're into two of us but for whatever reason, you just aren't clicking with the third. This is fine too. All the same applies here as the first scenario. You can date two of us both together and separately, we have no preconceived notions about what that has to look like. But again, some sort of scheduling and commitment is needed for us to be secure in the fact that we're developing something meaningful. It would be very helpful if you and the third of us are at least comfortable being around one another at dinner (or breakfast).

3. We all enjoy each other's company tremendously. Note that this is possible even if you're straight or if you're not physically compatible with one or two of us. In this kind of scene, we envision something very long term that could end up in a cohabitation situation. We have the room, and do understand that this is our eventual goal: An eclectic little commune that hopefully finds itself while we're still young enough to enjoy all the adventures life offers.

Any scenario above could evolve into any other. And other scenarios are possible, in fact. Nothing is permanent or set in stone, and we only ask of each other open communication of needs and extraneous circumstances (like other lovers, events, or situations that may affect the team). Understand that we aren't looking for exclusivity, but we ARE willing to ease you into this way of thinking gently; not expecting you to manage jealousy and mononormative thinking without any assistance from us. None of this works without open communication, and each of our consent depends on it being "informed". We carry HSV2, and are open about that and expect others to be open about that kind of thing as well. Please inform your other partners of this fact if we become intimate so they can make the choice for themselves. Likewise, please inform us of any lifestyle choices YOU make that could impact any of us if we become intimate. We don't have set responses to any situations that arise but we aren't typically over-reactive to them either. We've been around the block once or twice.

Also note that if you have thoughts or ideas of giving this a try and if you don't like it that you'll be able to sway one of us to break things off to be monogamous with you, give it your best shot. This is hardly likely as we all REALLY love not just each other but this way of living and loving. We do trust one another, and if that's what one of us decided for themselves, they would have the family's blessing (naturally over a few tears).

Adding another wrinkle, if you're a couple or part of a couple, the creative merging of families is entirely possible and should be considered! These things take time and a number of holiday seasons, but what awesome holiday seasons they might be, huh?